Some of the usual things that couples argue about include money, not spending enough time together, constant criticism, lack of communication and chores around the house. But in addition to these, there are a lot of smaller things you may be doing without even realising it! Learn to spot them now and do something about them before it’s too late:

Coming home in a mood
Bringing home your issues from work is one thing – if you’re going to talk and share your frustrations with your partner. But taking it out on them with snappiness and bad moods is not okay. Even the most understanding person will soon tire of this night after night.

Nagging
People generally don’t leave the nest only to move back in with someone who treats them like a child. Go easy on the nagging and negativity and remember to always look at your own behaviour before you start blaming your partner. Eventually, people won’t even hear you anymore if you keep droning on about the same thing. If something is bothering you, try to sit down and chat about it calmly like an adult.

No consideration
Remember that your partner cares about you, so don’t stay in the pub for hours on end with your cell phone turned off. Somebody at home is thinking and worrying about you. If you’re going on a boys’ or girls’ night, then tell your partner beforehand, agree on a time when you’ll be home, and then don’t let them down.

Sulking
Pretending everything is okay when it’s really not is not going to help anybody. Your partner isn’t a mind-reader and can’t guess what it is that’s upsetting you. Taking ownership of your emotions is empowering and really good for your relationship because you are not just blaming someone else for your troubles.

Don’t be scared to ask for help. People often think of relationship counselling as a last resort before they end up in the divorce courts, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Many couples seek therapy when they feel like they are going through a rough patch and need a bit of mediation in their relationship, so don’t be afraid to ask for it.