Q: I am 50 years old and I am so down I often think of committing suicide. I have a good life where I can look after my children and work from home so I am not dependant on my husband. I feel like I am betraying my children when I talk about suicide.

I don’t know what to do to stop this terrible pain. My husband says he loves me, but I just feel numb and ugly inside. I am always tired and most days I don’t want to get out of bed. I used to be happy and easy-going. Now, I get moody and angry very quickly.

A: Visit your doctor and have him check your hormones. You seem to be experiencing depression, but it may be a hormone imbalance due to menopause. If he puts you on medication, remember that there are a number of chemicals in your body that need to be balanced. Be patient and give it a few months.

What you are experiencing is very difficult – more so than people realise. Try not to judge yourself for the way you feel, but explain to your husband and children that your difficulties are because hormones in your body are out of balance. You need to realise this too and give yourself a treat from time to time. Being a mom is hard work, and you deserve to feel good.

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