My Wife Or My Family?

Q: I am 26 years old and I have a wife but no kids. I love my wife and I don’t want to lose her, but the way my family treats us, makes it seem like I might. They say we will go out after we have a baby, so before we get a baby, we are not going anywhere. What if we don’t have kids? My wife wants us to start our own family. The problem is that I love my family too. I don’t want to hurt anyone. Please help me.

A: This is a common problem and you need to decide where your loyalties truly lie. As long as your family believe they can tell you what to do, they will. What you are doing by listening to your family is hurting your wife. Losing your wife because of your family is actually your decision, not theirs.

Explain to your family that you are going to take control of your life, instead of trying to make everyone else happy. You are the man in your home, stand up and do what you believe is right. Work on your life together with your wife. It’s hard for her to be loyal to you and feel that you really love her if she thinks that what she feels isn’t important to you.

Your family may be offended at first, but keep explaining that you have to do what is right for your new family.The sooner you are able to make this clear, the sooner you can settle down and build yourself a life. If it’s you and your happiness your family really care about, they will learn to accept your new priorities.