How Do I Move On?

Q: I’m 22 years old. My relationships keep failing – what’s wrong with me?My last relationship seemed perfect. He would say the sweetest things and tell me how beautiful he thought I was. I was so happy.

Then he told me that there was someone else. I didn’t understand. I cried and we broke up. When I get lonely, I find myself calling and begging and sleeping with him again, and then I regret it. Why did he do this to me? I wish he had just been honest with me.

A: As you go through different relationships, you learn a lot about yourself and about others. I’m not sure whether he could have been more honest with you than he was. Maybe he didn’t have long-term love to give you, it doesn’t mean he lied. I know your heart is broken, but I want to try give you some hope and perspective.

You seem to be looking for a long-term relationship. It seems that you are so desperate to be loved, that you are taking it on any terms and that’s not good enough. My advice is to keep things quiet and spend time with your girl friends. Sex does not equal love and it won’t remove the loneliness. Spending time with your friends can help and give you time to heal. I don’t think you’ve been unsuccessful. I’m sure that none of the relationships you’ve had were right for you. You deserve love on better terms.