Tuesday, 22 August 2017

Kids and emotional development

The secret to raising happy, healthy and well-behaved children, says Laura Markham, psychologist and parenting coach, is building a closer connection with them. "It isn't enough that we tell our children we love them. We need to put our love into action every day for them to feel it. And when we do that our kids need a lot less discipline," she says.

Make time to be with your child.
"In relationships, without quantity, there's no quality," says Laura. To build a good relationship you need to spend time together.

Tell them they're awesome.
Kids form their view of themselves and the world every day from what they hear around them. They need your encouragement to see themselves as good people who are capable of good things, says Laura. If most of what comes out of your mouth is correction or criticism, they won't feel good about themselves.

Respect is mutual.
You should set limits, but do this with respect and empathy and your child will learn both to treat others with respect and to expect respect in return.

Relationships are the sum of daily interactions.

You don't have to do anything special to build a relationship with your child. Every interaction adds to the relationship.

Communication starts early.
If you listen while she chatters on about her friends at playschool, she's more likely to tell you about her interactions with boys when she's 14. Not actively listening means you miss opportunities for learning about and teaching your child, as well as those precious moments to connect.

Thursday, 17 August 2017

Pork belly

If you're looking to impress then you have to try this simple pork belly recipe.

2 tbsp fennel seeds
1tsp black peppercorns
1 small bunch thyme
3 garlic cloves
3 tbsp olive oil
1½-2kg piece boneless pork belly, skin scored

Toast the fennel seeds and peppercorns in a dry frying pan. Pound them together in a pestle and mortar with some salt, the thyme and garlic to make a paste. Mix with two tablespoons olive oil and rub all over the pork. Cover and chill, leaving to marinate for a few hours or overnight.
2. When ready to cook, rub the skin of the joint with plenty of salt and another tablespoon of olive oil. Sit on a wire rack in a roasting tin and roast at 200ºC for 30 minutes.
3. After this time, squeeze the lemons over the skin and turn the heat down to 160ºC. Roast for a further two hours.
4. Finally, turn the heat back up to 200ºC and give it a final blast for another 30 minutes or so, to finish the crackling. Allow to rest somewhere warm for 20 minutes. Carve up into chunks or slices.

Tuesday, 15 August 2017

Pea and ham soup

Try this tasty, tummy-warming soup. Perfect for a cold winter's day.

1 packet dried green split peas, rinsed
1 meaty ham bone and 2 ham hocks or 2 cups diced ham
1 cup sliced carrots
1 cup chopped onion
2 celery sticks plus leaves, chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 bay leaf
6 cups beef stock
Water as needed
Salt and pepper to taste
¼ cup parsley, chopped

1. Layer split peas, ham, carrots, onion, celery, garlic and bay leaf in a slow cooker.
2. Add the stock last and do not stir the ingredients.
3. Cook and cover on high for four to five hours or on low for eight to ten hours until the peas are very soft.
4. Thin out the soup with water as needed and add salt and pepper to taste. Add chopped parsley to serve.

Thursday, 10 August 2017

Fighting breast cancer

It's a dreaded six-letter word that is heard all too often and can turn your life upside down. One of the best ways to deal with this horrible illness is to know what to look out for and to be prepared.

The thought of having breast cancer can be terrifying and in many cases the fear is so great that it stops women from going to their doctors for check-ups. But one good thing about breast cancer, especially if it’s caught early, is that there's a lot of treatment and it is not a death sentence. Medical professionals urge women to keep their emotions in perspective and to educate themselves about the issues. Below is a list of risk factors for breast cancer:

• Increasing age
• Genes. Nearly 5% to 10% of breast cancer is linked to mutations in certain genes.
• Family history of the disease
• Personal history of the disease
• Race. White women have a slightly greater risk of getting breast cancer compared with African-American women. Yet Africans have a greater chance of dying from this disease.
• Earlier abnormal breast biopsy
• Earlier chest radiation
• Early onset of menstruation (before age 12) or menopause after age 55
• Not having children
• Medication use, such as diethylstilbestrol (DES)
• Too much alcohol
• Obesity

Living a healthy lifestyle – controlling your weight, exercising, quitting smoking – and talking to your doctor about your risk is crucial. Also remember that just because your mother didn’t have breast cancer doesn’t mean that you won’t get it, and at the same time you may have more than one of the risk factors and never get breast cancer.

Tuesday, 8 August 2017

Cheese and bacon potato bake

The ladies at Club LOVE this indulgent dish. It's not exactly great for the waistline but sometimes you need to treat yourself. It makes a great side, but is just as good paired with a simple green salad.


1 onion, finely sliced into rings
1kg potatoes, peeled and thinly sliced
150g cheese, grated
1 pack bacon, diced
20ml milk
Garlic, to taste

1. Preheat oven to 200ºC.
2. Line a 23cm saucepan with tinfoil. Greases the tinfoil with a little butter.
3. Melt 75g butter in another small saucepan, add garlic and bacon and cook until done.
4. Place a layer of potato in the base of the lined saucepan, followed by layers of onion, a little of the melted butter and bacon and grated cheese.
5. Repeat the layers until you have used up all the ingredients, finishing with potato and keeping a little melted butter to drizzle on top at the end.  Season the layers as you go.
6. Spoon milk over the top and bake for one hour or until the top is golden brown and the potatoes are tender. If the top is over-browning before the potatoes are done, cover with foil.
Cool for 10 minutes before serving. Peel off the tinfoil and transer to a plate to slice. Serve with a side salad.

Thursday, 3 August 2017

Spicy chicken kebabs

Because these kebabs have a bit of zing, they're delicious with salad ingredients and plain yoghurt or sour cream.


1 tbsp ground coriander
1 medium onion, halved
2 cloves garlic, chopped
4 tbsp sunflower oil
1 tsp chilli powder
2 tsp turmeric
4 tbsp sweet soy sauce
500 grams boneless chicken breasts
Skewers (soaked in water over night)

1. Blitz marinade ingredients in a blender until smooth
2. Dice chicken into 1.5cm cubes and marinate for 30 minutes.
3. Thread marinated chicken onto skewers.
4. Cook over medium coals or on a hot griddle pan until slightly charred and cooked through.
5. Serve with rotis and salad.

Tuesday, 1 August 2017

Get respect at work

Navigating relationships in a work environment can be tricky. But no matter who you are or what kind of work you do, whether it's in a factory, a local store or a big office, you deserve to be respected by your colleagues. Here are four simple ways that you can gain the respect of your boss and co-workers.

Ask for help when you need it.
If your boss hands you a project and you have no idea what he/she's talking about, don't pretend that you do. Some people might see it as a weakness, but getting help is a respect basic. Say with confidence: "I've never done this before. What are your expectations?"

Create boundaries.
Setting up boundaries is a very important skill. This can be difficult because you obviously want to please the people you work with, but creating boundaries is not about saying "no" all the time. It is simply being clear about what you are able to do.

Speak up.
Communication is key in all aspects of life, but never more so than between the people you work with – and for. If you have a difficult boss or co-worker, don't just grin and bear it. Instead, go to the source of the problem; tell them what you need and ask them to do the same.

Don't be mean.
It's been said before, but you should really try to avoid gossip and negativity; it just drags you down. Focus on  being a source of strength and support for your fellow colleagues.
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