Tuesday, 28 June 2016

Rape 101

Rape is a serious reality that women face. Here are some essentials you need to know:

If you are raped:
• Report it within 72 hours at the nearest police station – preferably take a friend or adviser (call Lifeline or Rape Crisis)
• Ensure DNA evidence is collected from your body within 72 hours – don't wash, brush hair or teeth, change clothing, even go to the toilet before then. This could destroy DNA evidence.

• Insist that you are given the morning-after pill to prevent pregnancy, antibiotics to prevents STDs and anti-retroviral treatment to prevent HIV-infection, also within 72 hours.
• Get counselling.

Rape myths:
• A healthy woman can resist a rapist if she truly wants to.
• If a woman goes home with a man she wants sex.
• If she wears revealing clothes she is inviting rape.
• If she gets into kissing and fondling it's her fault if she is raped.
• Real men push even when women say no.
• Men can't control themselves when aroused.
• Sex with a virgin can cure HIV/Aids.

Stay safe from rape:
• Take a cellphone with you when you go out and always tell someone where you're going and when you are expected back.
• Think ahead and plan a safe way to get back (with friends or in a taxi).
• Avoid drinking too much – stay in control, or in a group (watch each other's drinks, which can be spiked).
• Get to know a man really well before being alone with him.
• Pay your own way if you don't know a man well, but in any case know you never owe someone sex.
• Be aware that appearing passive and shy can make you seem a likely victim – stand tall, walk purposefully, speak firmly.
• Know that you can't tell good or bad men by their looks or status.
• Trust your instincts – the moment you feel uncomfortable or a man crosses a boundary, tell him so.

Tuesday, 21 June 2016

How to say what you're realling thinking

At some point, we've all wished that we could tell a certain someone how we really feel. But fear of confrontation can hold us back. If you've plucked up the courage to say something, here are some tips to keep you calm and collected.

• Don't ramble; make your point directly and concretely.
• Keep your voice tone neutral; do not be too hostile or too passive.
• Remain calm. Explain how you feel, why you feel the way you do, and what you will and will not do in managing a situation. Present options (i.e. you can do this and this may happen, but if you do this, this may happen).
• If you feel that someone is trying to manipulate you and move the conversation away from the issue of confrontation, try repeating your original point, which will allow you to focus the discussion on the appropriate issue.
• Never threaten a person with a specific consequence. You can always state the possible consequences of behaviour, but never threaten a specific end result, because if the end result does not happen, you will lose credibility.
• Never get emotionally involved in a confrontation – it will make you very ineffective.
• Do not swear or behave inappropriately, as it will allow the individual who you are confronting to focus in on your inappropriate behaviour instead of their own.

Thursday, 16 June 2016

Red lentil soup

This meat-free soup is tasty and easy on the purse strings.


60ml butter
1 onion, finely chopped
2 cloves garlic, crushed
2 litres chicken stock
15ml ground coriander
1 cinnamon stick
5ml turmeric
5ml cumin seeds
1ml cayenne pepper
250ml red lentils
30ml tomato paste

1. Heat the butter in a large pot and sauté the garlic and onions. Add all the seasoning and cook together for one minute.
2. Add the lentils, chicken stock and tomato paste and bring to the boil and then reduce heat. Simmer for 40 minutes.
3. Season and serve with bread.

Tuesday, 14 June 2016

The most common pregnancy problems

Don't be too alarmed if you experience one of these symptoms – it's all part of the process. But if one of them becomes very severe and lasts for a long time, it's best to get it checked out by your doctor.

Morning sickness: Try eating plain crackers or dry cereal; avoid very warm temperatures, greasy food and eat smaller meals throughout the day.
Abdominal pain or cramps: Try placing a warm heating pad on the area where you are experiencing pain.
Swelling: Avoid standing for long periods of time, wear well-fitted shoes and elevate your legs when sitting.

Constipation: Exercise regularly, drink lots of water and eat plenty of food containing fibre such as fruit, vegetables, cereals and bread.
Fatigue: Get plenty of rest, eat a balanced diet, do some exercise and make sure you're getting plenty of iron.
Bladder problems: Drink plenty of water, avoid junk food, coffee, sugar; include cabbage, leeks and garlic in your diet; drink cranberry juice and take a vitamin C supplement.

Thursday, 9 June 2016

Veggie hotpot

This easy vegetable dish is budget-friendly and meat-free.

1 can mixed vegetables
1 can mixed beans
3 large potatoes, thinly sliced
1 red onion, diced
2 garlic cloves, crushed
100ml vegetable stock
1 tbsp oil

Preheat oven to 200ºC.
2. Place the potatoes in a large pan and bring to the boil for five to seven minutes, until just beginning to soften. Drain well.
3. Heat oil in a frying pan and fry onion until soft, then add the garlic
4. Add the vegetables, stock and beans, heat through and pour into a casserole dish.
5. Arrange potatoes in a layer over the vegetable mixture. Brush butter over the potatoes and bake for 30 minutes or until the potato is cooked through and
golden brown. Delicious served with fresh bread.

Tuesday, 7 June 2016

Getting a job after studying

So you’ve done the three to ten years at your local university/technikon, and are dreading trying to look for a job. Here are five steps to help you cross over into the working world with ease.

Step 1: Start at university
You should start working on your career while you are still at an academic institution by joining campus organisations and committing to extracurricular activities. You can also try to get work experience – even if it is unpaid – and learn basic computer skills.

Step 2:
Pay attention to the job market
Knowledge is your greatest weapon when looking for a job. Figure out what your career goals are and find out how your chosen industry operates, and what your future employer is likely to expect. Before going for an interview, figure out the answer to this question: What can I contribute to this company?

Step 3: What is needed in the job market?
There is often a greater need for professional skills in certain industries so try to uncover the “hidden job market” through networking with employers and/or those already working and see whether your interests fall into these industries.

Step 4: Use an agency
There are hundreds of employment agencies and most of them exist as specialists in certain career fields and/or regions, or cater only for post-graduates or strictly for temporary work. An agency will be able to connect you with possible job opportunities you may not have been aware of. The government’s labour department also offers placement services for job vacancies.

Step 5: Be realistic
Consider the challenges that await you when you enter the job market. Most entry-level jobs do not pay well and don’t have much status, but everyone has to start at the bottom and work their way up. Continue to take courses while working and keep up-to-date with trends in your industry. Employers look favourably upon those who continue to educate themselves.

Looking for a job is terrifying and exhilarating and you need to apply the knowledge you gained while studying to your career. In our increasingly competitive world, employers will only hire competent professionals.
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